Have you been holding on to past resentments toward someone you care about? If you are serious about transforming your life and building loving relationships this year, you must learn to forgive. Forgiveness is a gesture of love for others — and for yourself.
Nurturing loving relationships is vital to our overall well-being...
But sometimes we allow a mistake or harsh words to sever our ties with a close and trusted friend. Whatever your situation, remember that no one is perfect. If you find yourself thinking about your friend and the wonderful times you shared, perhaps it’s time to be the first one to thaw the ice.
You see, the benefits of forgiveness begin when you forgive yourself for whatever role you played in the situation. Forgiveness lifts the negative weight we’ve been carrying and quickens the healing process. Stop hauling that story around with you every day. Even if it’s not entirely your fault, step up and reach out. Free yourself of the burden. Perhaps your friend lacks the courage to make the first move and may be relieved that you took action.
“Forgiveness is the answer.” — Maya Angelou
Now don’t rehearse a formal speech and prepare a complicated agenda. Sit quietly and reflect on your intention. Come from a place of love and compassion, and be honest. First send a note. Something light and simple like, “I’ve been thinking of you and miss the great times we shared. Just reaching out to see how you’re doing and wondering if you’re open to a chat.”
When your friend replies, invite her to a virtual tea — both of you ready with a teatime hat, gloves, and the flavor you’re drinking. Your accessories will be a conversation starter sure to make you both laugh. Allow the conversation to flow naturally. And when you approach that “issue” that tore you apart, open the door for honest dialogue. But be careful not to place blame. Instead, acknowledge that perhaps you both were going through a difficult time or maybe there was a misunderstanding — whatever makes sense in your situation. But don’t linger on the issue. You both know what happened.
Be clear that you want to make amends. Ask for forgiveness and accept forgiveness. Then when the time is right, schedule an outing together. It’s difficult to focus on your Divine purpose when you’re harboring resentments. Life is precious, and time is short. Don’t delay — message your friend today!
Consider This
What are the positive rewards of demonstrating acts of forgiveness? Forgiveness has long-term health benefits for you and your friend. It promotes emotional healing, relationship building, and reduces stress. Allow time for a response. And if you don’t get a response, feel good that you made an effort.
Remember: It may not be in your best interest to seek amends with everyone who offended you or caused you harm. In these cases, it may be wise to forgive these people, and release and bless them so you can move on.
Four Steps to Nourish, Transform and Flourish
• Set a loving intention to forgive yourself and your friend this week.
• Take the first step by reaching out to that person with whom you enjoyed a close and trusting relationship.
• How will forgiveness lift the negative weight, promote loving relationships, and allow you the space to focus on your life’s work?
• Close your eyes and visualize how this lifestyle change can prepare you for your amazing second half.
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In love, peace and health--
Your feminine glow guide,
T. Kari Mitchell, M.Ed.
Motivational Speaker
Certified Holistic Health Coach
Lifestyle120.com
When your spirit is nourished, your inner light produces an outer glow reflecting your beauty and truth.